I’m thankful for … Future Bev’s

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Me right after egg retrieval at UCSF.

Hello friends! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family! I have a lot to be thankful for this year. First and foremost, Thank you God for always keeping me safe and getting me through life’s toughest obstacles. I never feel alone, as I know He is always with me by my side.

This is probably the most personal and private (news) on social media yet. But I wanted to share this with you because I believe this topic has been extremely important to me, and what I’m thankful for this year.

On October 10, 2017, I completed my “mature oocyte cryopreservation” also known as Egg Freezing. This is a method used to preserve reproductive potential for women. Once the eggs are harvested from your ovaries, frozen unfertilized and will be stored for later use (a.k.a my future BBYS!)

Before I tell you the why and the reason I started this process, I want to thank my good friends who encouraged me from Day 1 that I can do this. Also want to thank those who was there with me during the 2 weeks. (You know who you are: MC, CC, RC, SL, HW, DL, KL, MG, BL, NB).

Why Now? Why Egg Freezing (at my age)

There isn’t a right answer as to “why now”.  I had a conversation with a girlfriend recently and she asked me why did I do egg freezing at my age now (dude, I’m only 38.. I don’t feel 38 and I don’t act 38. haha). It’s really “why not now”…..last but not least, I only wish I did (knew about) it so I could have done this sooner.

To be honest, I used to think I could do it all (at my own capacity). Before June 2017, I was running 2 businesses the last 4 years, and thought — I’ll get married and have kids when I’m ready.  I never thought about how hard it might possibly be to have kids, until some of my girlfriends (older & younger than me) are having trouble conceiving.  Hearing their stories, some wanted to make sure I had options (backup), so that when I am ready to become a Mom, I have eggs stored away to help me make that decision when the time comes.

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Hello from the Ultrasound Room at UCSF.

What’s the process and how much did it cost? 

Here’s my story (a shorter version) of how it all went down..

Before you get your meds (yep, that big ass box below), you go through bloodwork (took 10 vitals- FML), paperwork, ultrasound, meeting with the doctor and even attended a 2 hour class on self injection…aka needles! for your egg freezing. TAKE…BIG DEEP BREATH.

UCSF was the perfect choice for me.  It was close to my house, as you have to commit at least 2 weeks to this process. The cost was a little under $7,600 and my insurance did not cover any of it. Fortunately, because it is through the UC system, the cost was subsidized as I hear it can cost as much as $15,000.

I went back UCSF every 2 days to monitor how the eggs were growing, so the doctors can count how many follicles/a.k.a eggs I have.

So … Here we go.

Day 1, September 22, 2017: My Meds arrived!

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Overnight delivery by FedEx.  Open immediately (I love unboxing things!) and some needs to be stored away in the refrigerator.

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Wa- La! This was ALL THE MEDS that came in that box.  *Pro Tip: It doesn’t come with an icepack, but that SAVED me. I’d ice my belly about 3 minutes before I injected the needles every night.

September 28, 2017 – My first time self injecting the needles. I thought to myself….omfg, i can’t do this. cray-to-the-cray!

Side Note: If you do watch the video below, I haven’t taken down my Mom’s Chinese New Year Stickers yet in this part of the house.. haha.

This is what it looks like when I was injecting.

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Self Injections to the Belly..

Day 9: I documented the entire process on my phone. Here is me giving an update from the Ultrasound Room.

Final ultrasound before egg retrieval.

The Ultrasound Results are in. Doctor says he see’s 11 potential eggs but 8 mature ones.

October 8, 2017 — The FINAL SHOT (a.k.a.. The Trigger shot). I wasn’t smiling for a reason. D made me laugh and I was trying to concentrate on getting this over with. I asked him to jab with me with the needle and he said No. Hahah. FINE THEN! Anyway, the needles on your last day are EXTRA Damm Long. Same process, I had to ice my belly, I should had gotten a fan, so it wouldn’t sting as much. Didn’t help that the lights were so dim, so he had to use his phone to give me extra light.

FINALLY…..Day of Retrieval is here!!

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From UCSF…That View Tho..

Getting ready for surgery

October 10, 2017: 10:30AM Getting ready for surgery. *Pro Tip: I wish I had time in the morning to put a little make up on. geesh!

After surgery, I recovered for about and hour. The nurse came into the recovery room and told me they were able to retrieve 15 eggs!! WOW! I’m so happy! All that work and it paid off. The next day, the nurse called  and said out of the 15 eggs, they were able to freeze 8 eggs. (aka, future BBYS). I feel fine. I’m fully recovered, except I’m still bloated which means I just have to work out extra hard. haha. I’m considering doing this process again to bank more eggs. If you’re considering egg freezing and have questions, please feel free to leave a comment. I’m happy to help!

Top 10 things I learned from Egg Freezing:

10. If you can afford to do this procedure, please do and do it while you’re young.

9. Two ICE PACKS!! They were my saving grace during the self injections.

8. If you’re unsure how to do the self injections, go back to the nurse and have them show you how. I really thought it would be super confusing, but it wasn’t at all.

7. No working out for 2 weeks. (sure, haha, don’t need to twist my arm on this one).

6. During the 2 weeks, the doctors said you’ll feel bloated. They weren’t kidding at all. I felt like a pregnant lady walking around.

5. This is for your future. Even if the injections sounds scary, you can do it.

4. I documented everything because I knew I wanted to share my experience with others. You might want to, but totally up to you. I’m glad I’m sharing my experience to encourage all younger women to do this.

3. For 2 weeks, I didn’t do much but the only exercise I did was walk. My mom spoiled me whenever she saw me. I secretly enjoyed it! hehe!

2.  I’m excited to know in the future, I have options on harvesting the 8 mini Bev’s that are stored away.

Finally, last but not least, this was by far, I don’t feel like I failed because I am not a mother yet at age 38. While I love seeing photos on IG, FB of all thing babies and annoucements, I feel the time will come when it’s right for me.

Thank you for taking the time to read my story. Ladies, I hope I inspired you a little bit to think about your future mini me’s, should you decide to have children one day. #143BBY

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PS. 48 hours post surgery, my girlfriends and I took a trip to Paris! Bonjour! Thanks for reading!

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